My dinner with Luke

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Got dinner on the table late as usual and as usual the two of us, my son & I, had our reading material all around us. We eat at the kitchen island because it is usually just the two of us (plus the two animals clamoring for food). His sports magazines and my newspapers from the morning are usually still shrewn around. Sometime I say, " put the magazine away" in an attempt to have normal dinner conversation, but a lot of the time I just let us read cause we are together so much that I don't think that we have to "make dinner conversations" - it's exhausting anyway, trying to pry information from a twelve year old, ie: "what did you do at school today?, "nothing".
He sometimes reads me some sports trivia that I don't have a clue about and tonite I read to him from one of the articles in the newspaper that I 've been saving to read- about this 19 yr. old Indian American Harvard student who got a book deal for 500,000(at age 17!) His response - "what's she need 500,000 dollars for? she's in college.
And I answered(seeing an opportunity for some of that "good dinner conversation," well why do those sports heroes have to make millions of dollars? what about the firefighters saving lives, they're the heroes and they don't make much. His comeback was "well, Jackie Robinson" was a hero- he was one of the first black players" and I said "yea, I bet he didn't make much."
One of our better dinner conversations I'd say.

11 comments:

DesLily said...

when you find the answer to why sports figures have to make millions of dollars while firefighters and teachers barely get buy.. let me know!

Jona said...

Hi rdl, I like your adult conversation (especially as this week I was subjected to what Dexter (some cartoon!) was doing on his show two weeks ago!!) but now my big boy is back (he's eleven going on forty ;o)) I'm getting told all about black runs and altitude headaches (he's been skiing). Enjoy your weekend :o)

Patry Francis said...

sweet. I can just picture the two of you.

Amishlaw said...

Isn't it funny how sometimes we have the least to talk about with the people closest to us?

Mary said...

Very nice, you encapsulate it all really well, Rdl. It's lmost as if I am at the table with you.

tom said...

nice you and your son can talk...so many kids do not even blink an eye at their parents...
someday HE will call YOU on the phone just to see how you are doing....
thanks for the nice words on my site recently....tom

Melly said...

I can totally picture the both of you - so cute!
You know what, quantity counts as well as quality. It's for him to know that you are just there. Usually at that age it's all they want most of the time anyways :)

MB said...

Good for you for persevering even when it's not easy ... those answers of "nothing" can be tough! Bon apetit!

dog1net said...

rdl,
Got to love our children as they will always amaze us when we least expect it. My son often asked such wonderful questions that had me stumped more often than not. That you spend time with him and let him share his interests with you, and vice versa, is what he'll remember most later on. You're building memories that both of you will cherish throughout the years.
Scot

g said...

Eating and reading is one of my favorite things to do. It sounds like a real treat if you can do that with your son.

But I know the whole - what did you do today - nothing - routine from past experience, so with my ten year old son I am trying something different.

I'm hoping we can keep it going into adolescence, but only time will tell. I say, I have something to say and something to ask. Which do you want first?

This works, maybe because I am making more effort, or giving him some choice, whereas if I ask, "How was school" I get, "OK."

FTS said...

I don't necessarily fault the pro athletes. If I could play baseball well enough that someone wanted to pay me bucketloads of money to do so, why would I turn it down? None of us would, if we're truthful.

There's definitely an imbalance, but such is life. What's the answer? The same can be said about actors; no celebrity is worth all that and a bag of chips, yet it's the way things are.

Doesn't make it right. It just makes it reality. :-\